Quite recently I’ve had quite a few people commenting on my confidence and how I come across. People who know me know that I’m referred to a diva and a princess (No idea where that came from lool) . I came across an inspirational post the other day on how to be more confident. It was explained in 5 steps/points which I think were quite relevant in today’s society. I’ll outline the points and give it my interpretation.
1. Stop comparing. Stay focused on you.
This is quite an interesting one. I’ve struggled with that for such a long time, especially with social media. I constantly felt like I was underachieving and not reaching my potential. In the virtual world, everyone seems to be happy, successful, and living a luxurious life. It’s so easy to forget that everyone has their own story and struggles and everything isn’t always what it seems. My path towards growth and success is my own, whether I will get there tomorrow or in years time shouldn’t matter. What matters to me is that I’ll get there eventually in God’s time. One thing I like to adapt to planning and making goals is being SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely/Trackable)
“Many people fail in life, not for lack of ability or brains or even courage, but simply because they have never organised their energies around a goal.” – Elbert Hubbard
Focus your energy on the things that matter to you and YOU only.
2. Relax. Go with the flow and don’t stress the little things.
One thing I’ve learned is: when you feel like you’re stuck, frustrated, tired, overwhelmed etc. CHILL THE FUCK OUT! I naturally have quite a laid-back demeanour. And I have LEARNED (in capitals because I have struggled with this forever) to let things go. When it is not in your control: LET IT GO BOOBOO. 9 out of 10 times, with hindsight, it’s an issue/situation not worth getting grey hairs over. Brush yourself off, laugh about it and keep it moving 😉.
3. Love yourself. You are a gift. Nothing would be the same if you didn’t exist.
I have LEARNED to love, appreciate, and accept myself. I have LEARNED how to love and appreciate my personality, my curves, and my spirit. I have LEARNED to accept my body, my stretchmarks, my rolls, my belly, and the colour of my skin. One thing I have realised is that I cannot allow my happiness to be determined by other people, whether if it’s their actions towards me or how they treat me. I have LEARNED how to make myself happy.
4. Be positive and look for the good in every situation.
Like mentioned at point 2; laugh A LOT, relax, and let go of things that do not matter. Be mindful of your limits but do not shy away from challenges. Try new things and focus on solutions rather than problems.
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
5. Do what you love. Life is too short to waste your time doing anything otherwise.
Like mentioned at point 3, I have to take ownership of my own happiness. So I have decided to do things that I enjoy doing like travelling, going out for meals, cinema, going to festivals.. even If I have to go on my own (LOL!). Being comfortable enough to go out on your own and genuinely enjoy yourself is the most liberating feeling (I would recommend it to anyone!).
Life is way too short. Don’t let anyone/anything get in the way of enjoying it! Do not wait around for other people to make your day, be proactive and create your own happiness.
“Life is short, and it’s up to you to make it sweet.”—Sadie Delany
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